Indirect Questions

1. How are things going with your spouse (children)?
2. Do you feel safe in your home or your neighborhood?
3. You mentioned that your husband loses his temper? Can you tell me more about that?
4. You seem to be concerned about your dad. Does his behavior ever frighten you?
5. How do you and your husband handle disagreements?
6. I see a lot of people with injuries like yours. Sometimes they’re a result of a family argument. Has this ever happened to?
7. I’ve noticed that if animals are hurt, people might be too, and so now I make it a habit to ask everyone I visit if they are abused or know anyone who has been abused. Do you know anyone who is abused?
8. Sometimes animals get hurt trying to protect family members from violence. Has this ever happened to your pet or anyone you know?

Direct Questions

1. Does anyone ever punch, kick, or slap you?
2. Does anyone ever threatened you?
3. Does anyone ever take advantage of you?
4. Has anyone ever threatened to hurt your pets if you don't do what they say?
5. Are you afraid of your husband? Your dad? Your mom?
6. Sadly, many families and pets are victims of abuse and it’s not their fault. Are you being abused?

It is best to ask questions in a positive and supportive voice. Remember that anyone accompanying the person could be a perpetrator, so try to speak to a potential victim privately. Understand it can be risky and complicated for a victim to admit there is violence in his or her home.