Function of Domestic Violence: A Pattern of Control
Domestic violence is not simply two people who physically hurt one another because they cannot control their tempers during an argument. Certainly, violence in this form is devastating and should be stopped. But, the core issue of domestic violence is much more insidious.

Battering or abuse is a pattern of behavior that seeks to establish power and control over another person through fear and intimidation. Batterers believe they are entitled to control their victims. They believe that threats and violence are acceptable and will produce the desired results. Therefore, domestic violence is purposeful and instrumental behavior.

The perpetrator’s pattern of abusive acts is used to gain compliance from or control over the victim. It is directed at restricting independent thought and action so that the victim will become devoted to fulfilling the needs of the perpetrator. The pattern is not impulsive or ‘out of control’ behavior. Tactics that work to control the victim are selectively chosen by the perpetrator. This achievement is unfulfilling however, because the perpetrator can never get enough control to make him/her feel comfortable. It is impossible, despite the victim’s attempts to comply.