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| Age Group | Ways of Being Drawn In | Effects of Abuse |
| 0-1 year |
Seeing it Hearing it Being awakened from sleep by it Being ripped out of mothers arms by the batterer Having toys broken Being born prematurely Being hit while in mothers arms Being thrown |
Physical injuries Death Fright Being traumatized Sleep disturbances Eating disturbances Being colicky or sick Being nervous, jumpy, crying a lot Insecurity from being cared for by a traumatized mother |
| 2-4 years |
Seeing it Hearing it Trying to stop altercation Becoming abused themselves Being used as a physical weapon against the victim Being interrogated by the batterer about the victims activities Being held hostage by the batterer |
Acting out violently Withdrawal Problems relating to other children Delayed toileting Eating problems Being nervous, jumpy Sleep problems Insecurity Fear Depression |
| 5-12 years |
Seeing and hearing it Picking one parent to defend Physically intervening Calling the police Running to a neighbor for help Being used as a spy by the batterer Being forced to participate in the attack against the victim Being physically and sexually abused as a way to control the mother Being restricted from contact with others |
Fear Insecurity, low self-esteem Withdrawal Depression Running away Early interest in alcohol or drugs School problems Bed-wetting Premature sexual activity Becoming caretaker of adults Becoming violent Developing problems to divert parents from fighting Being embarrassed by his/her family |
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Teen years |
Killing or trying to kill batterer Trying to stop abuse Hitting parents or siblings Becoming physically abused Being used as a spy Being used as confidant Being coerced by batterer to be abusive to mother |
School problems Social problems Shame and embarrassment about his/her family Sexual activity Tendency to get serious in relationships too early in order to escape home Truancy |
| Specific Effects on Teen Girls |
Learning that male violence is normal Learning that women dont get respect Possibly accepting violence in their own relationships Embarrassed about being female Becoming pregnant |
Becoming a super-achiever in school Depression Suicide ·Alcohol and / or drug use Confusion about gender roles Becoming violent Eating disorders |
| Specific Effects on Teen Boys |
Learning that males are violent Learning to be disrespectful of women Using violence in his own relationships Confusion or insecurity about being a man Attacking mother, father, or siblings |
Becoming super-achiever at school Depression Suicide Alcohol and / or drug use Confusion about gender roles Becoming violent |